FLIRTING

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Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 11:57:09

what is your views on flirting? what do you think?

i think its ok to flirt if you really like the person but if not dont bother to waste time on that person.


waht if a girl/guy just broke up with her/his bf/gf and you like her/him and she/he starts to flirt with you, are you ok with being in a re bound relationship?

for me its not a good idea to take a plunge just because you lke that guy or girl. ok what they get back together whatr are you going to do and i just think tha tre bound relationship dont work that oftrn what do you think?

Post 2 by louiano (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 12:00:30

well, flirt is fun sometimes...

Post 3 by The Wicked Witch of The East (we deserve each other) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 12:06:37

umm yea, I flirt a lot. but usially its just little flings, not because I want a relationship with the person.

Post 4 by louiano (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 12:51:49

exactly

Post 5 by laced-unlaced (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 13:25:53

no i'm not okay.

i get really paranoyed if someone just starts to tuch me and stuff

Post 6 by angel and devil (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 13:34:23

Well, I just had to read this post when I saw the subject. If any of you have read my profile, you'll see that I state that I am a big flirt. To me, fliring doesn't necessarily mean you want a relationship. I just automatically flirt with everyone. It's something I have done most of my life. If someone takes me too seriously and I am not interested in that person, then I have to try to let him know gently that I wan't coming on to him but just trying to engage in some innocent flirting.

Post 7 by Texas Shawn (The cute, cuddley, little furr ball) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 13:45:15

heheh, sounds like me I like to flirt and of course it's gotten me in trouble plenty of times. but ah well! some people ya just can't help flirting with.

Post 8 by Resonant (Find me alive.) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 13:48:39

It seems to me, from the first few posts, that you guys use the term flirting to mean hooking up. Flirting can be entirely innocent, without ending in either a fling or a relationship.

Post 9 by 1800trivia (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 14:05:53

Also, people can tell a sexual joke, even about each other, and have it be completely harmless, whether you're in a relationship or not. You can also talk about sexuality with others without having cybersex or wanting to be in a relationship with that person, so it all depends on what flirting means to you. To me, "flirting" is when you purposely come on to someone, and you're not making a joke.

Post 10 by Wraith (Prince of Chaos) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 14:33:57

Me and my friends flirt with one another all the time... but we all know it's out of fun. Besides, realtionships are the bane of all, so my friends won't ever have to worry about me getting the wrong idea. So, yes, while I've foresworn any intimate relationships on pain of... well, pain, I do enjoy flirting. It's fun, it's harmless unless you take it too far, and it's a nice way for good friends to show their affection for one another, because after the flirting come the pranks. *grins*

Post 11 by DougS (Veteran Zoner) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 14:38:32

I don't mind the whole flirting thing at all. Some of my more memorable experiences have been flirting moments where we either never took it any further on purpose or just never ran into each other again. Flirt with me all you want. If I like it, I'll flirt back. If it goes somewhere, cool. If not, it killed some good time.

Post 12 by man of steele (1) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 16:44:47

I agree that flirting is fun!! I like to flirt and sometimes it gets me in trouble but that just comes with the territory!!! I enjoy the flirting and the flirting that i sdirected towards me!! So keep the flirting going!!! Later all you flirts!! P. S. I mean the girls!!

Post 13 by louiano (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 17:00:59

lolrlrllrl

Post 14 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 15-Jun-2005 18:27:34

i agree that flirting is a nice way for good friends to show their affection for one another. ok i feel good when i flirt with someone specially if he flirts back but i dont flirt that much often. haha i'm not a good flirt but when i really like someone i'm ok.

Post 15 by blink183 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Thursday, 16-Jun-2005 10:19:32

Flirting is a CRITICAL part of creating ATTRACTION in a woman. It took me a LONG time to realize this, but without the flirting and other behavior/body language that triggers attraction, chances are that the woman will not FEEL that gut level feeling of attraction for you. If the attraction isn't there, then NOTHING else matters. You can buy her as many expensive dinners and gifts as you want. You can't CONVINCE a woman into liking you. She has to FEEL attraction for you, and attraction is built by that play-wrestling banter we call "flirting." That brings me to another key point: in order to create attraction, you have to learn how to flirt right.

Post 16 by 1800trivia (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Thursday, 16-Jun-2005 14:05:32

Same goes for men you know.

Post 17 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Thursday, 16-Jun-2005 17:00:50

how do you "flirt right"?

Post 18 by 1800trivia (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Thursday, 16-Jun-2005 21:55:58

Well, you tell the person you like them, in my opinion, or you drop hints first. You tell them nice things about them and how nice they look, and how they are very special to you. If they don't get the hints, they might just not pick up on subtlties and need it directly (I like you, I'm attracted to you).

Post 19 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Tuesday, 21-Jun-2005 21:13:38

Yeah, either that or you go clearly out of your way to be with that person, or be near them. It all depends on how deep the flirting is, i mean seriously, sometimes people won't take it as flirting if yall get my meaning. I admit, I flirt with people that I don't really really like, but think I could like them. Flirting can be fun!

Post 20 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Tuesday, 21-Jun-2005 22:42:19

Nope I never have taken to the idea of flurting very well! I am starting to understand that it can be a way of letting the other know their attractions for them, but even then I'd rather the complete honesty straight up front! Since some people flurt and there's nothing to it, and others flurt with more meaning behind it, one can never tell entirely! I consider flurting, innocent or otherwise bad game playing and I will not stand for it. I don't flurt. I tell it like it is! If I like a person, they will know about it. Likewise if someone likes me, I expect them to be honest and tell me up front. though in saying that, there are very few people that will think like me, probably because they find it simply difficult. Flurting seems to me to be almost an easy way out for some people.
Just my thoughts and opinions on the subject.

Post 21 by Twinklestar09 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Wednesday, 22-Jun-2005 0:57:14

Well, that's cool, Rdfreak, and I'm pretty much like you. I'm not too good at flirting myself, although if I am interested in someone, I'll try to find out all I can about them out of curiosity and probably be more shy and/or but at the same time want to spend a lot of time around that person. But to me, it's hard to tell with flirting; it makes it hard to know whether or not and when your supposed to take them seriously. I'd rather a person tell me straight up if they like me, as if they just flirted and expected me to pick up from that, I'm likely not to take them seriously and would wonder if they would still flirt with other girls as much if we got together. Also, I can't stand if I'm being serious about something and they keep going with the flirting. If we're joking around with each other or it's not as serious a topic, I don't mind, but if it's something that is really important to me, I expect them to respect that.
Leilani

Post 22 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 16:03:20

Hey I agree with rdfreak. I believe that honesty is the best way to do it. But some times it takes awhile before someone even realizes that he/ she is into someone. Flirting can make the feelings start and if you flirt with someone you like and you both have a good chemistry then there you go. It does not need any flirting any more. Its all there. Oh but theres another thing. Sometimes flirting does not work. You know the feeling like if your not really ionto that person. Even thogh he/ she flirts and flirts with you, nothing will happen. Hehe its just a matter of feeling good for a certain person but not all. Hehe love the idea of flirting. Its sets me into a good mood.

Post 23 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 16:07:08

I find it easy to flirt with someone that I like or have a crush on but I don’t waste my time with just anyone. I’m a picky girl. I don’t just flirt with a guy just because he looks hot or flirts with me. Lol

Post 24 by JH_Radio (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 13-Nov-2005 18:07:20

So True, I can exepct ano flirting from you. *cries* LOL But seriously, I'm all for flirting! I'm a pretty open guy and flirting is all good with me. SO keep the flertin comeing. I just may flirt back, eheheh. *SMiles8

Post 25 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Sunday, 13-Nov-2005 23:23:13

I like flirting. I think it is a good way to let someone know you like them, but then again, I am just a big flirt. Hahahaha. Flirting is fun! To all my flirts out there, keep it up!

Post 26 by lights_rage (I just keep on posting!) on Sunday, 13-Nov-2005 23:46:34

I flert sometimes for flings sometimes for fun and others for a relationship

Post 27 by Luce (Zone BBS Addict) on Monday, 14-Nov-2005 9:13:29

Flirting is a natural part of a persons personality. But of course, it's not something which we all feel comfortable using. For example, humour is a natural part of our personalities, but we don't all feel comfortable using it. Flirting is healthy in my oppinion. And I feel that it's good to flirt, even if you are in a relationship. I'm not saying that flirting to lead people on when you are in a relationship is good. But the way I see it, there are two types of flirting: the innocent, just for fun type, where you just enjoy flirting, and sometimes do it without realising. Or there's the suggestive type, where you flirt with someone to show interest in them, and because you want something more with them. Now, the innocent type is harmless, and can even be fun in a relationship if all parties know you are spoken for. I think a bit of flirtatious jealousy can be a healthy thing. But the suggestive kind is a definite no no, unless you are free and single! Just my thoughts :)

Post 28 by renegade rocker (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 17-Nov-2005 0:07:04

I love flirting personly, it's also gotten me in a bit of trouble, but it's all good! yeah baby!

Post 29 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Thursday, 17-Nov-2005 13:01:19

No way, flirting doesn't get anyone into trouble. Lol, just kidding, maybe once in awhile, but that is why you do it in a subtle way, unless you are single. But yeah, who cares, if you wanna live your life, live it up and flirt while you still can. Lol.

Post 30 by renegade rocker (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 17-Nov-2005 15:08:23

I couldn't agree more!

Post 31 by JH_Radio (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 03-Dec-2005 13:28:57

Flirting is goood. I say keep it up while you still can, because once that ingagement ring goes on, th the flirting would stop I'd think.

Post 32 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 04-Dec-2005 17:24:16

hey speaking of the tipic. anyone in here who would like to talk to me? just looking for some friends. feel free to send me a quick note or call me on skype. i'm very outgoing and i might just reply to you, if i like your tone.

take care

Post 33 by JH_Radio (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 04-Dec-2005 18:31:20

Wow. I have SKype too. Its in my profile, and I'm always on. Never tried that featuer "Skype me" but that might be interesting.

Post 34 by OrangeDolphinSpirit (Despite the cost of living, have you noticed how popular it remains?) on Monday, 05-Dec-2005 17:01:18

Yeah, I think flirting is harmless ... and loads of fun! And as for being a rebound relationship ... I'm not so sure about that one!

Post 35 by renegade rocker (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 05-Dec-2005 20:48:59

My skype name is in my profile as well, so do add me, and I'll authorise ya!

Post 36 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Friday, 16-Dec-2005 19:37:03

i agree with rdfreak. flirting is just an easy way out, but then again, i'm just an honest person, and expect nothing less from my partner.

Post 37 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Tuesday, 20-Dec-2005 6:06:01

Well, I have skype as well, but, however, won't just give it out, so pqn me if you really want it...